Till Death Do Us Part



We promise on our wedding day "till death do us part"! What we do not grasp at that point, is its "till death do us part" or until the next argument, debate, discussion, fight, challenge, dispute, call it what you wish. 

Marriage as a concept, is fairly difficult to comprehend. If beings from another planet where to land on earth, and you told them you met this guy 30 years ago and have been sharing your whole life with him ever since. How would they perceive it? Sounds like a science fiction story, a bit far fetched.

In so many years of marriage, "till death do us part" has come to mean many different things on may occasions. When life is rosy and we are madly in love with each other again, it has meant exactly what it says. I could not imagine life without this guy. 

When life is throwing curve balls our way in the appearance of a job loss or an illness, it has meant I need to be around for this challenging time, till we get over it, then I can leave.

When life is all about the stress he brings home and his anxieties, it has meant, how quickly can I pack my bags?

When life has made me weak and vulnerable it has meant two lifetimes attached to this person is not enough.

Marriage is many contradictions in one packet, "till death do us part", what a thought! We can exist for a lifetime in a cocoon of warmth, safety, and love. Nothing will break us apart but death. What if you are the one that wants this person gone?

Herein lies the dilemma, you married this person with the promise "till death do us part", but there are days when you wonder what you have done to deserve this? Who is this person again? I promised to do what?

As I said, at the beginning, your marriage is not about you and him anymore, practically from the day after the wedding. Its about all that life encompasses, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Will you make it "till death do us part" or will you take an early exit?

Here is what I have learned: marriage should be a 5 year renewable contract with new agreed terms and conditions, or at least the conditions which allowed you to promise "till death"should be revisited and remembered often! 


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